The NSA Relationship and Cougar Dating
First Things First: What is an NSA
Many may not have first hand knowledge as to just what is NSA and without this information this little piece holds no merit or basis as many will not know what we are speaking about. So the only logical way in which to begin is with first things first.
NSA : The Meaning Defined
NSA is the shortened or abbreviated meaning for No Strings Attached. No strings attached is defined by those at Quora as "…to mean the opposite of quid pro quo. Essentially an offer is being made without any expectations other than the stated deal." In regards to dating it is almost the same but a little different. The difference is that the offer being made is one of no commitment.
FWB Dating Between a Cub and Cougar
Often the NSA dating style is referred to as a FWB or friends with benefits dating. A more vulgar wording of this is often stated by saying that the two are Fuck Buddies. A clearer definition for either as found in the urban dictionary is "all the benefits of being in a relationship minus the bullshit like not doing enough for Valentine’s Day or her birthday, not spending 3 months salary on a stupid ring, and not spending enough quality time with her."
The Fuck Buddy Code
Simply put this code is a set of rules in which both parties have mutually agreed to a non-committed relationship of a sexual nature. Typically the following five rules are those that are the most dominantly found and followed.
- There is to be no emotional attachment
- Hook ups are not on a set basis
- Mutual satisfaction best but not a guarantee
- Do not neglect one another
- Discretion is the number one and often only rule
NSA in Regards to Cougar Dating
In recent times NSA relationships have been becoming more and more popular in the general dating community whereas often times the cougar relationships have been utilizing the NSA rules not knowing that they were NSA.
Navigating the First NSA
By far the hardest aspect of the NSA relationship is beginning one. It is imperative that for the NSA relationship to be successful one must ensure that both parties are aware that this is to be a NSA or FWB style relationship. If this discussion does not take place there is going to be hurt feelings and or bruised egos felt by cubs, cougars, or both.
Only Agree if You Really Agree
Do not enter into a FWB or NSA type of relationship unless you truly agree in that relationship parameter. Do not enter it in the hopes that you can change the other person’s mind or feelings as it will only lead to you becoming hurt in the long run.
A Sex Buddy Relationship Has No Stepping Stones
Cubs and cougars alike must remember and realize that a sex buddy style of relationship has no stepping stones to it. It is not a dating style that will one day just become a serious relationship. To hope for stepping stones is only setting ones self up for heartache and disappointment. Not only that but it is also a very unfair position in which to put your partner and a good way to make a lot of good memories turn sour.